“So if you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener. To be interesting, be interested. Ask questions that other persons will enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves and their accomplishments.” Dale Carnegie
After reading the title you might be really curious just to see what is this top secret into become a more interesting individual and becoming the ultimate conversationalist where you will stand out. And to be completely honest its extremely easy and many of us already know this tip!
It’s just that many times we forget to apply it and when we do our conversations with different people in various situations many times don’t go the way we intended them to go. Again we have the answer to being that Ultimate Conversationalist. All we have to do is begin to use it and never let it go!
Encourage others to talk about themselves…. Yes that’s it. Nothing else!
Many times we think that if we continue to talk about ourselves and our accomplishments we will win people over and everyone will instantly like us. We might think that after telling evryone how cool, strong, smart or even unique we are evryone will be impressed with us. That type of thinking is super wrong! If we think this and do this all the time we must stop immediately at this very second.
It’s actually the opposite! The rule is not to speak about yourselves. Let others talk about what they have done and what they think/feel and that’s when we begin to win them over. In society people don’t have the opportunity to express themselves because others are constantly interrupting or no one has an interest in them. But you will be different?
As soon as you begin this process to let others speak whats in their mind and heart people will just talk, talk and talk some more. And all you have to do is be a good listener. As you do this they will get in a better mood and see you as one and only. They will finally say everything they have to say and even might converse with you about something they are passionate about!
2 Amazing Questions to ask other to speak about themselves could be like:
- What do you love to do on your spare time?
- Where in the world are you from?
Now I do have to give a warning to all of you who will begin to apply this technique!
At the end of all your conversations people will immediately like you and mention to you and others behind your back how brilliant of a conversationalist you are! Now you might say: “well I did not say anything, I barely spoke.” Which is true, but they will say this because you let them speak and deep in their hearts they are thankful.
Just do this simple step and see the difference in all your new conversations and folks will jump of joy every time they see you because you are truly the interesting and brilliant conversationalist!